How a Wife Can Help Her Husband Get Rich and Stay Rich


The single most important thing a man can do to get rich and stay rich is to marry the right woman.

This is so important that I’ll repeat it.

The single most important thing a man can do to get rich and stay rich is to marry the right woman.

Do you believe that statement?

Take 10 seconds to think through it.

What in the world would make a man rich through his wife?

I’ll explain.


What My Science Teacher Taught Me about Money

One day, sitting in my classroom as a JSS1 student of a federal school in Lagos, we stood up to greet a young woman who looked to be in her late twenties or early thirties. She was friendly, jovial and non-threatening. She taught us Integrated Science.

She was also good with the cane. :)

For the purpose of this article, I’ll call her Mrs. P.

Two years after she began teaching us, my mum (who also teaches in the same school), was moved from Chemistry department to Integrated Science department.

She and my mum began talking a lot.
Mrs. P at this time was a few years into marriage, and her kids were in nursery and early primary school.

Here’s a summary of her financial journey, as told to me by my mum:


Mrs. P had a strong mother, who was intelligent with money and taught her well.

When Mrs. P gained admission into the university, her mum instructed her to bring all the money that relatives and family friends were giving her. Mrs. P’s mum opened a special account to save the money. This savings continued till she finished university.

When she graduated, she started teaching kids in private tutoring classes. The same process continued. Her mother would collect the money and put it into the account.

The money was growing gradually.

A few years after she got married, her mother instructed her to tell her husband that a land was available at a good location, and they should get money to buy.

Her husband had the habit of going out to drink with his friends.

He asked her, “Where are we going to get the money?”

She replied, “I have N150,000.” (This was in the 90s)

He stopped drinking.

He became more serious with his wife and his finances.

They eventually bought the land and began building the house.

They are done with the house now. It is a two-storey building with six flats. Using the rent from the flats, they built a row of 6-8 shops (can’t remember the exact number now) close to the bus stop of their area, where they collect rent too.

The best part of this story?

It took them 12 years to complete the house.

Twelve. Whole. Years.

In that time, they lived in a room in the family house of Mrs. P. They moved to the house after they had completed one flat.

It was the idea of Mrs. Ps husband to build a six-flat house, instead of a small bungalow.

They are both civil servants.



Is it reasonable to say that Mrs. P’s husband would have eventually gotten rich if he hadn’t married a woman like Mrs. P? What if he had gotten married to a woman who believed the outdated paradigm that a man is entirely responsible for finances in a home?

For any family that starts average (financially) and ends wealthy, the woman plays a very important part.


The Problem with Men

Most of a man’s money (usually) goes into the family.

It is the wisdom and discretion of the woman that helps the family manage this money.

Some men are frivolous in their spending. I know men (and you probably do too) who have the appearance of riches, but aren’t cash rich. They seem to have a lot of money because they have bought 5 cars in 4 years.

Check their account balance. Check their savings.

You’ll find nothing tangible.

Every time they come into some money, they blow it on cars, fun and flashy things for their wives.

It looks good, but it isn’t good.

Because 10 years down the line, the man who seemed like a millionaire has no landed property, still lives in an (expensive) rented apartment, still looks flashy, but is now tired.

Many men who have worked in high paying jobs for years sometimes retire into penury for this same reason.

It is a woman’s responsibility as a wife to pull her husband back to his senses, BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY.

This is probably the best use for a lady’s feminine wiles.

Whatever it takes, make him do it.
I’ve seen the things that can happen when a lady sets her mind to make her man do something.

Impossible to resist. :)

After the family becomes financially comfortable, he’ll be happy you did.


What Can You Do Now?

  1. Tell me (in the comments): How do you feel about this? Do you know any woman who has made a valuable contribution like this to her family? Share her story in the comments.
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  1. says

    Hey uche good one but I want to point out somethings. Unless I’m wrong o, what I see these days, women spend extravagently especially on fashion. Women can buy the most sophisticated items if the money is there. Its the man who has to bring her to her senses. Like I said I might be wrong but in this present day women are going off guard. I don’t know if its due to this women empowerment waves. Women seem to forget primary responsibilities today and why because they are pursue big careers that were reserved for men before. The example of Mrs P dates back to many years. Then thngs were ok. Socety wasn’t what it was today. There was responsibilty in the home but now that’s not the case.

  2. says

    Some women even push their husbands to blow money on extravagent stuffs like cars. Instead of putting the man in order,they push men forward to spend more so that the women can feel among in society, the women want to be high class. I’ve witnessed this were a woman was telling her husband that how can he be buying nasco corn flakes for the children when kellogs is there. Why cant they go to the most expensive school in ibadan and why can’t they go to London for the summer. This is a man whom the wife was aware that his business was not doing well to make it worse, the woman had been searching for work that time. The woman’s demands was on the verge of breaking the marriage. The man always stayed cool and his endurance paid off. Now they have a joint business that is flourishing. Its not like the family is super rich but the woman has put that old behaviour behind her now. I commend her husband as the man kept his cool al that time. He never threatened to send her packing or beat her up or anything. He just kept looking till the day she got her acts right again.

  3. st Eddy says

    Woow so amazing I had to send it to my wife to be and she was so happy being the kinda of woman that wanna grow with the husband finance. Nyc1 dude

  4. Favie says

    Uche, what will be your advice for the women who do not have the brains to handle finances. cos like Kunle pointed out, a good % of the modern female folk are the exact opposite of money managers.

    Is it really out-dated for the man of the house to manage finances at home? is it soo wrong for us to feel it’s his obligation.

    Moreso, I feel Mrs. P’s case is quite interesting. Her husband did not seem to have prior plans for the family (financially of course)…*just playing the devil”s advocate here…lol…”who says I cant marry a man who has a forte in money mgt (investments etc)

    Life is Buriful!
    You are doing a good job here.

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